Dating advice...I need help?

Seriously, you need to go to your doctor about this! It is not normal. You very possibly could have an enlarged prostate, which is treatable, but if left untreated could cause long term harm. Do you drink coffee to stay awake? How much sleep to you get at night? The coffee could be part of the problem that keeps you from sleeping well, just contributing to the cycle. Try 20-30 minutes of intense cardio about 3 hours before bedtime, and you'll find that you sleep much better. Many times problems such as yours are symptoms of a high stress lifestyle that can be solved without medication, but through some lifestyle modifications. But, back to my first point, SEE YOUR DOCTOR!